Tapestry Conference

October 19-20, 2018

Topics

making sense of your worth
Cindy Lee
The HALO Project
Riding the ups and downs of raising children from hard places is one of the biggest challenges you will ever face. All too often the chaos and conflict in the home is the result of a current battle between the caregiver and child. In order to stop the chaos we have to the change the fight.
making sense of your worth
Cindy Lee
The HALO Project

Riding the ups and downs of raising children from hard places is one of the biggest challenges you will ever face. All too often the chaos and conflict in the home is the result of a current battle between the caregiver and child. In order to stop the chaos we have to the change the fight. “Me against you” must become “Me and you against your pain.” Healing can only happen when caregivers and children align to fight the child’s history together. So what tools do you need to fight your child’s history? The answer lies in how you view yourself and your own worth. The more self-worth you have the more powerful and steadfast you are in the battle. Part 1 and Part 2 of Making Sense of Your Worth focuses on a series of self-worth exercises designed to strengthen your ability to be victorious in removing the trauma strongholds that hold your household captive.

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Cindy Lee

The HALO Project

Cindy is the co-founder and Executive Director of HALO Project.   HALO (Healing, Attachment, Loving Outreach) Project is a 10-week intensive intervention program for foster and adoptive families in need. HALO collaborates with occupational therapists, mental health clinicians, psychologists, speech pathologists and medical professionals to meet the diverse needs of this population.  HALO Project is committed to gathering research data to contribute to the body of evidence that supports best practices on trauma informed care.

In an effort to better serve families struggling with attachment issues, Cindy completed the TCU Institute of Child Development’s professional training program of the Trust-Based Relational Intervention Model (TBRI ®) developed by Dr. Karyn Purvis and Dr. David Cross. Since her completion of the TBRI ® training, Cindy has conducted numerous trainings to clinicians as well as foster parent groups and has been invited to assist the Institute of Child Development as a mentor at their week long trainings.  In addition, Cindy created the HALO Project, which is based on TBRI®. More information about HALO Project can be found at www.haloprojectokc.org.

In collaboration with Dr. Karyn Purvis and Dr. David Cross, Cindy has published a series of children books based upon the valuable lessons on TBRI ®, including Baby Owl Lost Her Whoo and It’s Tough to Be Gentle: A Dragon’s Tale, The Redo Roo, The Penguin and the Fine Looking Fish, and Doggie Doesn’t Know No. These books are sold on Amazon.com and the proceeds are donated to HALO Project and the Institute of Child Development.

In addition to being trained in TBRI®, Cindy has received specialty training in the Adult Attachment Interview (AAI), Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TFCBT), Parent Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT), Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR), Seeking Safety, Trauma Recovery and Empowerment Model (TREM), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Theraplay® (including the Marschak Interaction Method (MIM), and Circle of Security™.   Cindy has experience treating a wide variety of issues including child abuse and neglect, trauma, anxiety, eating disorders, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Dissociative Identity Disorder, Reactive Attachment Disorder and Addiction.

Cindy graduated with honors from Arizona State University with her Master’s in Social Work in 1999. Cindy is licensed by the Oklahoma State Board of Licensed Social Workers as well as the Oklahoma Board of Licensed Alcohol and Drug Counselors.

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Great Expectations
Andrew & Angela Holland
Hope Fort Worth
When starting the journey of foster care and adoption, we may often carry expectations that are unrealistic and cause us and our children to carry a burden that God never intended us to carry.
Great Expectations
Andrew & Angela Holland
Hope Fort Worth

When starting the journey of foster care and adoption, we may often carry expectations that are unrealistic and cause us and our children to carry a burden that God never intended us to carry.  These expectations can be exposed by ourselves, our families, our church culture, our community, and the world at large.  We have expectations for others.  They have expectations for us.  Our hopes and dreams for our children begin with our expectations.  This can cause us to lie to ourselves and others about reality and often leaves us wondering, “Where did I go wrong?” ” God, why aren’t you helping me?” Andrew and Angela will share the story of how their “great expectations” failed them and how God helped them learn from their mistakes in order to serve their children better.

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Andrew & Angela Holland

Hope Fort Worth

Angela Holland is a United States Air Force veteran, mom of 4 children, Empowered to Connect trainer, author, and co-founder of Hope Fort Worth. Her two youngest have special needs and her youngest son, Ethan, was adopted 3 years ago from China. In 2015, Angela and her husband co-founded Hope Fort Worth, a non-profit orphan care ministry in Fort Worth, Texas, whose goal is to equip the local church to care for vulnerable and orphaned children in the community. Angela Holland also co-founded Trained to Trust, a ministry that helps individuals recognize that their story matters and God is at work in their life, training them to trust Him.

After her son, Ryan was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes, Angela was inspired to author a book, I Like Storms: 22 Stories of Faith.

Angela’s life message is:

That often when we suffer hardships, it is like we are looking at the back of a canvas. We only see the lines and the blotchy paint, but if we would only turn it around we would see a Beautiful Picture. 

Her desire is to bring awareness, compassion, and understanding for foster, adoptive and special needs children by building a bridge of hope through her personal stories and education.

In 2005, Andrew was hired as the Children’s Pastor at HighRidge Church Ft. Worth.  During his 13-years at HighRidge, he held numerous positions including Executive Pastor, Men’s Pastor and most recently, Orphan Care Director.

In 2015, Andrew founded Hope Fort Worth. Hope Fort Worth exists to mobilize churches in the Fort Worth area to make a difference in the lives of orphaned and vulnerable children. It is Hope Fort Worth’s mission to partner with local resources, the government, and local churches to serve children in the foster care system. “The time is now to mobilize and care for the kids that are in foster care and to care for the kids who need to be adopted, right here in our community.”

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Whole-Brain Wellness
Christine Flage
Empowering Dr. Mom
Kids from hard places have brains that have developed differently. In fact, the stress they have endured has changed their cellular structure.
Whole-Brain Wellness
Christine Flage
Empowering Dr. Mom

Kids from hard places have brains that have developed differently. In fact, the stress they have endured has changed their cellular structure. Come to learn why your child needs special care, and how you can best support their chances for a normal healthy life. Dysregulated behavior, anxiety, anger, and even depression are often signs and symptoms of neuroinflammation. This session will provide insight into what could have triggered your child’s brain to become inflamed, and how the brain needs to be supported through areas such as nutrition and proper neurochemistry.

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Christine Flage

Empowering Dr. Mom

Christine is the founder of Empowering Dr. Mom and is a blessed wife and mom to 4 amazing children (2 biological and 2 from the amazing country of Ethiopia).  Christine received her bachelor’s degree from Texas A & M University in 1998 and began pursuing knowledge in integrative and holistic medicine after the dramatic recovery of her son from autism.  She went to nursing school in 2013 so that she could work with her mentor, Randy Naidoo MD.  Christine has experienced health and behavior challenges in her children and desires to empower parents with tools for hope and healing.  Christine now works part-time at Shine Pediatrics helping parents understand lab results and implement workable plans for recovery.  She also provides holistic health and wellness consulting from her home in Carrollton, TX where she offers neurofeedback, BEMER vascular therapy, nutritional counseling, and essential oil education.

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Becoming a Connected Parent
Mark Vatsaas
Seen and Heard
Many of us study our children’s special needs and learn connected parenting strategies only to discover that knowing what things to do is very different from actually doing them.
Becoming a Connected Parent
Mark Vatsaas
Seen and Heard

Many of us study our children’s special needs and learn connected parenting strategies only to discover that knowing what things to do is very different from actually doing them. We discover that to effectively do connected parenting we must become parents that connect even in the midst of the hard stuff. How do we become the kind of person that is capable of parenting with connection? We will explore practical tools of personal transformation for understanding the unmet needs driving behaviors, attuning to the child’s inner state, and managing one’s own emotional responses.

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Mark Vatsaas

Seen and Heard

Mark Vatsaas and his extraordinary wife Bethel have 6 astounding kids. A fierce advocate for children from hard places and the families that care for them, Mark left a three-decade career in software engineering to support families worldwide through parent coaching, training, and speaking (seenandheard.coach), blogging (One Flawed Dad), and as a moderator of the 14,000 strong Facebook group, Parenting with Connection.

Originally traditional, old-school parents, Mark and Bethel adopted 2 kids from foster care and discovered that everything they thought they knew about parenting left them woefully unprepared for the hand their new kids had been dealt. Bethel dragged Mark to his first trauma-informed parenting conference, sparking his insatiable curiosity. Mark turned his inner engineer to the problem of becoming a connected parent, studying not just the books and videos, but also the research they cited and eventually becoming a TBRI® Practitioner.

Combining the logical and analytical mind of an engineer with the hard-won experience of a parent who is still in the trenches, Mark makes complex topics accessible and meet parents where they are with compassion, understanding, acceptance, affirmation, and hope. His vulnerability about his own failures makes him persuasive without judgment or shame.

His dad superpowers include losing at Candyland and making it look real, reading the same bedtime story every night for a year, baking after midnight for suddenly remembered class events, simultaneously being declared both the worst dad ever and the best dad ever, stepping on Legos in the dark, and finding long-lost tools while mowing the grass.

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Are You Leading When it Comes to Personal Healing?
Ryan North
One Big Happy Home
Are You Leading When it Comes to Personal Healing?
Ryan North
One Big Happy Home

As parents, we should never ask our kids to do the anything that we ourselves are not willing to do, especially in the realm of personal healing. It is easy to focus on their hurts and histories while not dealing with our own. While that feels and looks good because we are focused on our kids and what they need, the truth of the matter is that unless we lead them by showing them how to work through their histories they will never heal the way we need them to.

Conflict in relationships happens at the intersection of two people’s histories. Our homes become more peaceful and restorative when we are willing to deal with our hurts and hangups. We can’t truly show others what healing looks like if we are not on a journey of healing ourselves.

Come and learn why coming to terms with your past is such an important part of working with vulnerable children.

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Ryan North

One Big Happy Home

Ryan North and his wife Kayla have 6 children, 4 who were adopted from foster care. They spent 10 years as foster parents and have learned many of the things they share with families and churches in the trenches. During their time they as foster parents, they had 30 placements; some short-term, some long-term, and some permanent.

Ryan is the co-founder and CEO of One Big Happy Home and is considered an expert on childhood trauma and its impacts on adults and children. He serves as the President of Tapestry, a non-profit that supports and equips local churches and families with the tools and resources to wrap around and bring hope and healing to adoptive and foster parents, children, and their families. He is the former Executive Director of Empowered to Connect, and as Lead Trainers for Empowered to Connect, the Norths have trained close to 100 Empowered to Connect Parent Training Couples in North America.

One Big Happy Home exists to equip and support churches and families so that they can create environments where children feel safe, secure, and loved. The Norths have developed training for churches, schools, and parents educating them on trauma, its impacts, and how it informs behavior. They believe that empathy and compassion are foundational to reaching hurting people and have spent years helping people think differently about the at-risk population of children.

You can hear him on The Empowered Parent Podcast and read his writing on Empowered to Connect, the Today Show Parenting team, and at One Big Happy Home.

The North’s live in Dallas, TX with their 6 children and 2 dogs, Snowcone and Elvis.

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Grieving Our Children’s Loss With Them
Paul & Diane Anderson
Tapestry
Our children have come to us with a deep sense of loss, and we need to help them and even walk them through the process of grieving that loss.
Grieving Our Children’s Loss With Them
Paul & Diane Anderson
Tapestry

Our children have come to us with a deep sense of loss, and we need to help them and even walk them through the process of grieving that loss. In addition, as they encounter losses moving forward, it can bring back up that sense of loss and re-trigger big emotions.  How do we help them make sense of and process those emotions?

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Paul & Diane Anderson

Tapestry

Paul and Diane began their adoption journey in 2001 when they brought Alex home from St. Petersburg, Russia at the age of 21 months.  In 2007, they added to their family by adopting their daughter Mandy from Guatemala at the age of 7 months. Paul and Diane have a passion for encouraging, teaching and supporting adoptive and foster parents in the challenging journey that they face.  They are Empowered to Connect Parent Trainers and are a part of the Tapestry teaching team.

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Stress-Free Strategies for Starting the Hardest of Conversations
Kayla J.W. Marnach
Author/Speaker
We all want our children to know appropriate body boundaries and sexual abuse prevention methods, display self-regulation, and practice life values.
Stress-Free Strategies for Starting the Hardest of Conversations
Kayla J.W. Marnach
Author/Speaker

We all want our children to know appropriate body boundaries and sexual abuse prevention methods, display self-regulation, and practice life values, but teaching them can be daunting. Yet, it doesn’t have to be. With the proper tools, these discussions can begin and be maintained as normal conversations when you are equipped with the proper knowledge and easy-to-apply strategies. Come learn proven stress-free methods of starting these difficult conversations with confidence so you can become your child’s best advocate.

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Kayla J.W. Marnach

Author/Speaker

Mother to two grown daughters and three kitties, she and her husband have had a lifetime of volunteering and working with children. As a writer, Kayla has a passion for her mission to empower children and educate adults through speaking and writing. Her company, YANA Press is founded on the principle of letting others know You Are Not Alone. Working with TBRI® trained therapists and counselors she has created brain-based tools to help caregivers navigate the sometimes-tumultuous trials of parenting. When she’s not writing, reading, spending time with her kiddos and kitties, or traveling with her husband, you can find her playing FreeCell.

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Impact of Adoption and Foster Care on Birth and Permanent Children
David & Jayne Schooler
Back 2 Back Ministries
Bringing a child into the adoptive or foster home impacts not only the parents but the biological and other permanent children as well.
Impact of Adoption and Foster Care on Birth and Permanent Children
David & Jayne Schooler
Back 2 Back Ministries

Bringing a child into the adoptive or foster home impacts not only the parents but the biological and other permanent children as well.   Due to the stress and challenges of integrating a child into the family, the needs of the biological children can be inadvertently overlooked.  This workshop address five major impacts parents need to know about when adding children to their family. It will offer strategies to help families meet the emotional needs of all within the home.

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David & Jayne Schooler

Back 2 Back Ministries

Dr. David and Jayne Schooler began the journey into the world of foster care and adoption in 1978, with a simple question by a youth in their church. “Would you become my foster parents?”  They answered yes and that changed the direction of their lives.

David has served in the pastoral and counseling ministry for over 40 years. Much of his current focus is on working with adults who have a lifetime impact of early childhood trauma. Both David and Jayne are recognized nationally and internationally as speakers/trainers in the field of trauma, adoption and foster care, and emotionally healthy spirituality.  They are the primary authors of Back2Back Ministries, Trauma Competent Caregiving nine module training curriculum,  which has been translated into 7 languages and has reached over 58 countries.

Jayne is the author/co-author of eight books in the field of child welfare including Wounded Children, Healing Homes: How Traumatized Children Impact Adoptive and Foster Parents and Parenting in Transracial Adoption.  Serving now full time with Back2Back Ministries their international work takes them regularly to India, Nigeria, Mexico, and Haiti. David and Jayne are parents by birth and adoption and grandparents of four.

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Telling the Truth to Your Adopted or Foster Child
David & Jayne Schooler
Back 2 Back Ministries
When should a child be told he is adopted? How much of his past should I tell him? 
Telling the Truth to Your Adopted or Foster Child
David & Jayne Schooler
Back 2 Back Ministries

When should a child be told he is adopted? How much of his past should I tell him?  What about the really hard stuff, does he really need to know?  These questions and more will be answered in this interactive workshop on talking to your child about his past.  It is grounded in a simple biblical phrase: The truth shall make you free

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David & Jayne Schooler

Back 2 Back Ministries

Dr. David and Jayne Schooler began the journey into the world of foster care and adoption in 1978, with a simple question by a youth in their church. “Would you become my foster parents?”  They answered yes and that changed the direction of their lives.

David has served in the pastoral and counseling ministry for over 40 years. Much of his current focus is on working with adults who have a lifetime impact of early childhood trauma. Both David and Jayne are recognized nationally and internationally as speakers/trainers in the field of trauma, adoption and foster care, and emotionally healthy spirituality.  They are the primary authors of Back2Back Ministries, Trauma Competent Caregiving nine module training curriculum,  which has been translated into 7 languages and has reached over 58 countries.

Jayne is the author/co-author of eight books in the field of child welfare including Wounded Children, Healing Homes: How Traumatized Children Impact Adoptive and Foster Parents and Parenting in Transracial Adoption.  Serving now full time with Back2Back Ministries their international work takes them regularly to India, Nigeria, Mexico, and Haiti. David and Jayne are parents by birth and adoption and grandparents of four.

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Sensory Experience: Walk a Mile in Their Shoes
Kristin Mathis
Occupational Therapist
Sensory Differences are a significant issue for most of our kids. Many are hypersensitive, many are seekers, a lot are under-responsive and some are all of the above.
Sensory Experience: Walk a Mile in Their Shoes
Kristin Mathis
Occupational Therapist

Sensory Differences are a significant issue for most of our kids. Many are hypersensitive, many are seekers, a lot are under-responsive and some are all of the above. Come join us for a quick overview of Sensory Processing and how it can be seen in you and your children. We’ll talk about it, compare with others and have a “hands on lab” to really help us understand the struggle for many of our kids. You’ll also have the opportunity to experience some practical solutions and leave with new resources to help your children thrive.  

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Kristin Mathis

Occupational Therapist

Kristin Mathis, OTR, and her husband Chris are parents to five amazing kiddos ages 4 -16 (domestic adoption, international toddler adoption, and foster care adoption). Kristin’s background is in child development with a masters degree in occupational therapy. She has worked for ECI and is currently doing home health. Kristin completed professional training in TBRI (Practicioner and Educator) at TCU and her passion for foster and adopted children leads her to find practical ways to encourage health and healing for these wonderful families. She loves brain research, iced tea, and Mexican food.  Her days are full of re-dos (mainly for her), problem-solving and laundry (NOT in that order)

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